A new mother is struggling with trusting her in-laws to babysit her newborn after a few incidents that hurt the grandmother’s feelings.

The mom, who gave birth two weeks ago, recently consulted Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” forum to explain her problem. “My husband’s parents came over Sunday afternoon and offered to watch him while I took a nap (hubby was at work),” she wrote. “Of course I was so grateful and accepted because I was exhausted.”

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She gave her in-laws specific instructions from the pediatrician — due to the baby’s height and weight percentiles, he must be fed every three hours, even if he’s sleeping. “Well, I wake up two hours later and come out to the living room and they’re still just loving on him and all that,” she wrote. “At first I think ‘Oh how sweet! What great grandparents!’ But I look and he’s only had half an ounce of formula out of the 2.5 he’s supposed to have.”

The grandparents didn’t want to wake the baby nor did they change his diaper because, as they said, he hadn’t cried. Babies cry for all sorts of reasons, including when they have a full diaper, they’re tired or uncomfortable, or need soothing.

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Although the mom let it go, a few days later tensions flared when her father-in-law got impatient when feeding the baby and her mother-in-law remarked that “she wouldn’t be mean and wake him up like that.”

“Also she made a comment about the stretch marks on my tummy when my shirt came up and asked if my husband had seen them yet,” she wrote.

When the grandparents later offered to babysit, the mom explained that she can’t trust her mother-in-law to care for her baby. “We don’t wait for him to scream to take care of him,” she wrote adding, “There’s no way I’m leaving my baby alone to starve and sit in filth.”

“Apparently I hurt her feelings and questioned her parenting and now I’m the a**hole,” she concluded. “…I probably could’ve worded it differently or just declined without explanation.”

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